Comments on: Are In-Law Troubles Troubling Your Marriage? http://lifegems4marriage.com/2009/10/15/are-in-law-troubles-troubling-your-marriage/ Research-based marriage tips and insights Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:07:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Sharron Wright http://lifegems4marriage.com/2009/10/15/are-in-law-troubles-troubling-your-marriage/#comment-140 Sharron Wright Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:53:29 +0000 http://lorilowe.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-140 I love this. I'm blessed with a good in-law relationship, but it wasn't always this way. I think it goes back to your previous blog about being a good listener. Maybe your MIL doesn't know how to talk to you or you've never taken the time to really inquire about a self-deprecating remark or a passive-aggressive comment. Some in-laws don't want to ask anything of you, so maybe you can make a point to do something extra this holiday. Instead of asking "Would you like for me to bring something?" offer to bring a dish you are really good at making (or buying... if you don't cook.) Don't ask a yes or no question, but give a choice. I would like to bring this or that, what sounds better to you? And avoid personalizing every comment or action. Planning a family event can be time-consuming and stressful, and you would be wise to say "Thank You" as many times as you can! I try to end every in-law encounter with the words "Thank you for everything." And I really do mean it. I love this. I’m blessed with a good in-law relationship, but it wasn’t always this way. I think it goes back to your previous blog about being a good listener. Maybe your MIL doesn’t know how to talk to you or you’ve never taken the time to really inquire about a self-deprecating remark or a passive-aggressive comment.
Some in-laws don’t want to ask anything of you, so maybe you can make a point to do something extra this holiday. Instead of asking “Would you like for me to bring something?” offer to bring a dish you are really good at making (or buying… if you don’t cook.) Don’t ask a yes or no question, but give a choice. I would like to bring this or that, what sounds better to you?
And avoid personalizing every comment or action. Planning a family event can be time-consuming and stressful, and you would be wise to say “Thank You” as many times as you can! I try to end every in-law encounter with the words “Thank you for everything.” And I really do mean it.

]]> By: Ken Kendall http://lifegems4marriage.com/2009/10/15/are-in-law-troubles-troubling-your-marriage/#comment-139 Ken Kendall Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:04:56 +0000 http://lorilowe.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-139 This is so good. My wife's mother passed away when she was very young. Husbands don't realize how much more they would have to deal with if their wives didn't have a mother. Making the decision to be thankful for your mother-in-law might really help many. I write a blog about marriage and how men can better love their wives. I hope you will check it out when you have a chance http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com Thanks, This is so good. My wife’s mother passed away when she was very young. Husbands don’t realize how much more they would have to deal with if their wives didn’t have a mother. Making the decision to be thankful for your mother-in-law might really help many.

I write a blog about marriage and how men can better love their wives. I hope you will check it out when you have a chance

http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com

Thanks,

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